This is causing intellij to become slow and freeze up which is annoying as ****.
It appears as if it analyses other files similar to pom.xml causing freezes on other
In Windows Operating system, Press Ctrl + Alt + S, or File\Settings\ Project Settings section.
in section Maven:
* Uncheck: Import Maven project automatically.
* Section Generated sources folder:, Choose Don't Detect.

* Section Runner: Uncheck Run in background.

You can disable option in
Settings -> Maven -> Importing -> Import Maven projects automatically
(see intellij docs)
And then everytime you want to reimport the pom do it in Maven Projects tool window