i\'m a little confused about these two qualifiers...
With ARC instead of using weak (i.e. if I need support iOS 4) I can use unsafe_unretained los
Clang's technical specification of ARC goes into much more detail about how the qualifiers work.
But, to answer your question: assign and __unsafe_unretained are not the same thing. assign is a property attribute that tells the compiler how to synthesise the property's setter implementation, while __unsafe_unretained is an ownership qualifier that tells ARC how to insert retain/release calls. But they are related: when declaring a property, assign implies __unsafe_unretained ownership.
Prior to ARC, assign was the default property ownership qualifier; but with ARC enabled, the default for retainable object pointer types is strong. (For scalars and other pointer types, assign is still the default.)