i would like know how can i add a style when a item of the listbox is selected. I have the following listbox:
You have to change the style of the template ListBoxItem which the ListBox generates for each of the items that it renders. Your updated template needs to customise the Selected visual state. You can then associate this new template with your ListBox via the ListBox.ItemContainerStyle property.
There is a good tutorial, with sourcecode to download, here:
http://windowsphonegeek.com/tips/How-to-customize-the-WP7-ListBox-Selected-Item--Part1-Control-Template