I know that this is not \"best practice\" but I would like to know if I can auto restart tomcat if my deployed app throws an outofmemory exception
Generally, no. The VM is a bad state, and cannot be completely trusted.
Typically, one can use a configurable wrapper process that starts and stops the "real" server VM you want. An example I've worked with is "Java Service Wrapper" from Tanuki Software http://wrapper.tanukisoftware.com/doc/english/download.jsp
I know there are others.
To guard against OOMs in the first place, there are ways to instrument modern VMs via interface beans to query the status of the heap and other memory structures. These can be used to, say, warn in a log or an email if some app specific operations are pushing some established limits.