Strictly speaking, you don't need an IDE to work in Java. I've been coding heavily in Java for well over a decade (and heavily on other stuff for over 25 years), and I don't much like IDEs. Perhaps that implicit indicator of my age is part of the issue :-) It's a trade-off, like anything else.
I'll plug Stripes as a nice simple framework, but mostly that's because it's relatively small and limited in scope. The large frameworks like Spring are "kitchen sink" ecosystems, and learning Java with one of those frameworks may smooth some of the difficult parts but leave other basic aspects mysterious. Again, it's a matter of personal preference.
It's good to have somebody around who knows the language. Oh, and to that point, make a friend of the Java API documentation. As platforms go, the Java API has its ups and downs but for the most part the documentation is at least pretty thorough and pretty accurate.
You'll also want to get really familiar with JSP and its relationship to Java and Java web service architectures, because that'll be what you'll relate to your PHP experience most directly (I'd think).
