IMHO, most of us have a common denominator. Atleast in the back-end, we have some form of IOC/DI container and a persistence framework. Personally I use Guice and Mybatis for this. The differences are in how we implement the view/UI/presentation layer. There are 2 major options here (may be more) .. Action based (URLs mapped to controllers) and component based. Currently am using component based presentation layer (using wicket). It perfectly mimics a desktop environment where I use components and events as opposed to URLs and controllers. Am currently looking for a reason why I should migrate to this URL-controller kind of architecture (that's how I ended up on this page). Why the hype about RESTful and Stateless architectures.
To answer this question in short: I write stateful web applications using a component oriented framework on top of Guice IOC container and put data in relational database using Mybatis.