If you have a simple multi-space delimited file (as in your example) awk is the best tool for the job. To select the column by name in awk you can do something like:
$ awk -v col="b" 'FNR==1 { for (i=1;i<=NF;i++) if ($i==col) x=i; next }
{print FNR-1 OFS $x}' file
1 3
2 5
3 5
4 8