I have three database tables: users, user_profiles and friends:
users
This may not be the best way to do it, but this felt like the logical way:
select a.id , a.friend_id ,
Users.username
from
( SELECT id , IF(usera_id = 1, userb_id , usera_id) friend_id
FROM friends
where usera_id = 1 OR userb_id = 1 ) a
left join Users on a.friend_id = Users.id
this uses a mySQL function so probably wont work in Oracle/MSSQL