Object delete itself from container

Question

So I have a container(any kind, probably std::map or std::vector) which contains objects of a class with some network thing running in a thread that checks if it is still co

Answer 1

I would have am unload queue.

When a thread notices that the connection is down it registers the object (and continer) with the unload queue tides everything up as much as possible then the thred terminates.

A separate thread is then inside the unload queue. Its sole purpose is to monitor the queue. When it sees a new object on the queue, remove it from the container and then destroy it (syncing with the objects thread as required).