I am building a distributed system that consists of potentially millions of clients which all need to keep an open (preferrably HTTP) connection to wait for a command from t
I have meanwhile implemented my own message server using netty.io. Netty makes use of Java NIO and scales extremely well. For idle connections I get a memory footprint of 500 bytes per connection. I am doing only very simple message forwarding (no caching, storage or other fancy stuff) but with that am easily getting 1000 - 1500 msg / sec (each half a KB) on the small amazon instance (1ECU / 1.6GB).
Otherwise if you are looking for a (paid) service then I can recommend spire.io (they do not charge for connections but have a higher price per message) or pubnub (they do charge for connections but are cheaper per message).