I have two objects - one that contains some code with will fire an event, and one that contains the handler for that event. I can\'t \"AddHandler\" in the Load of the first
If you just want to know whether any handler has been attached, you should be able to check whether the event is null.
if (MyButton.Click == null) { MyButton.Click += myEventHandler; }
(I'll let you translate that into VB)