I am a new user of vim (gvim in windows), and have found abbreviations a nice time saver - however they would be even better if i could stop the trailing whitespace at times
This is possible, without more customization than just abbrev.
The abbreviation is being triggered by the space character, as you know. The space is a non-keyword character, and remains after the abbreviation is expanded.
But there are other ways to trigger the expansion, such as other non-keyword characters, including /. So if you instead define your abbreviations like this:
:ab diR1 C:/dirA/dira/dir1
That is, without the trailing path separator, then you can type diR1/, have the abbreviation expand for you because of the slash /, and continue typing, appending to your path with a file name.
Alternately, you can force abbreviation expansion using Ctrl-]. That is, type the abbreviation: diR1, with no following space or other non-keyword character, and then type Ctrl-]. The abbreviation will be expanded and you'll remain in insert mode, and can append your file name to the expanded path.
Check out :help abbreviations, there may be something else useful for you there, including more complicated constructions for always consuming e.g. the space character that triggered the abbreviation.