I have a cron which generates the whole mail info and puts in a database table using $mail_queue->put(.....)
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Personally, I would go the cron way because it gives less opportunity for failure. Say your mail server stops responding or for some other reason becomes unavailable. Or what if your entire network goes offline for a few hours, but the servers are still generating emails. I say use the queue.
As for the delay thing, just have a service/cronjob pick up the queue every sixty seconds, pop 100 emails and send them, then quit. You might get a queue of emails to be sent but that's going to happen no matter what system you choose. The queue will empty during off-peak hours, anyways.