Working on different projects I have the choice of selecting different programming languages, as long as the task is done.
I was wondering what the real difference is
The first rule of computer performance questions: Your mileage will vary. If small performance differences are important to you, the only way you will get valid information is to test with your configuration, your data, and your benchmark. "Small" here is, say, a factor of two or so.
The second rule of computer performance questions: For most applications, performance doesn't matter -- the easiest way to write the app gives adequate performance, even when the problem scales. If that is the case (and it is usually the case) don't worry about performance.
That said:
My advice: Develop in the language you find the easiest with which to work. Get your program working, then check for adequate performance. If, as usual, performance is adequate, you're done. If not, profile your specific app to find out what is taking longer than expected or tolerable. See if and how you can fix that part of the app, and repeat as necessary.
Yes, sometimes you might need to abandon work and start over to get the performance you need. But having a working (albeit slow) version of the app will be a big help in making progress. When you do reach and conquer that performance goal you'll be answering performance questions in SO rather than asking them.