I want to use the pimpl idiom to avoid having users of my library need our external dependencies (like boost, etc) however when my class is templated that seems to be imposs
You can explicitly instantiate templates in the source file, but that is possible only if you know what the template type is going to be. Otherwise, do not use pimpl idiom for templates.
Something like this :
header.hpp :
#ifndef HEADER_HPP
#define HEADER_HPP
template< typename T >
class A
{
// constructor+methods + pimpl
};
#endif
source.cpp :
#include "header.hpp"
// implementation
// explicitly instantiate for types that will be used
template class A< int >;
template class A< float >;
// etc...