What is an IoC container?
What is an IoC/DI framework?
Why do we need a framework for IoC/DI?
Is there any relationship between IoC/DI and AOP?
JMSA,
James Kovacs wrote a fantastic article which covers many of your questions I would recommend reading it Here
Spring.Net, Ninject, Unity, Castle Windsor, Autofac are all IOC containers which are configurable in different ways, many of them do also support AOP.
Frameworks for IOC/DI are useful because they provide standard mechanisms, for example if you are hiring a new developer it is much easier to say, we use this framework and pass them the links to the tutorials / help guide. At the same time these frameworks are tried and tested by a large community / companies.
Let me know if any of your questions remain unanswered after reading the article and the above answes and I'll do my best to provide further assistance.