Using data.table instead:
helpcount <- help[, list(Count = .N), by = deid]
helpf <- merge(help,helpcount, by = "deid")
helpf <- helpf[Count > 1]
EDIT: A bit more concise:
help[, Count := .N, by = deid]
help[Count > 1]
EDIT2: thelatemail's even more concise solution:
help[,if(.N > 1) .SD, by=deid]