Well, I\'ve tried my best to look at code examples and posts all over the web on how to do this, but I haven\'t been able to make any headway in a few months using windows A
You are entering the fun world of platform invoking (P/Invoke). Your best friend in this world is www.pinvoke.net, which contains c# (and vb.net) signatures for a great number of winapi functions.
For example, SendMessage:
[DllImport("user32.dll", CharSet = CharSet.Auto)]
static extern IntPtr SendMessage(IntPtr hWnd, UInt32 Msg, IntPtr wParam, IntPtr lParam);
and this list of message codes.
You'll notice that all p/invoke methods use the DllImport attribute, found in the System.Runtime.InteropServices namespace.
They also have an extern modifier in the method signature. This means that the code is found outside of the current assembly.
You can then use SendMessage to send messages to the handle of the calculator.
As Jonathan mentioned in his comment, you should use Spy++ to detect which messages are being sent that result in the actions you want to replicate.
For good measure, here is an article with more introductory information on P/Invoke.