I have a simple table maintaining messages between users. The table structure looks like
sender receiver message sendtime
1 2
SELECT data.* FROM
(SELECT MAX(sendtime) AS sendtime
FROM data
WHERE 1 IN (sender,receiver)
GROUP BY IF (1 = sender,receiver,sender)) AS latest
LEFT JOIN data ON latest.sendtime = data.sendtime AND 1 IN (data.sender, data.receiver)
GROUP BY IF (1 = data.sender,data.receiver,data.sender)
I recommend to use unique sequence id in your table to avoid external GROUP BY.
If you have incrementing unique message_id (i.e. bigger message_id corresponds to later sendtime), the query would be much simpler:
SELECT data.* FROM
(SELECT MAX(message_id) AS message_id
FROM data
WHERE 1 IN (sender,receiver)
GROUP BY IF (1 = sender,receiver,sender)) AS latest
LEFT JOIN data USING(message_id)