I have three classes: School, Account, and Administratorship.
School
I ended up using code from here to create a can_destroy override on activerecord: https://gist.github.com/andhapp/1761098
class ActiveRecord::Base
def can_destroy?
self.class.reflect_on_all_associations.all? do |assoc|
assoc.options[:dependent] != :restrict || (assoc.macro == :has_one && self.send(assoc.name).nil?) || (assoc.macro == :has_many && self.send(assoc.name).empty?)
end
end
end
This has the added benefit of making it trivial to hide/show a delete button on the ui