This is the same problem as a number of other have reported, e.g.
Failed to fetch URL https://dl-ssl.google.com/android/repository/addons_list-1.xml, reason: Connect
The solution for me was just to keep retrying. The easiest way I found was to periodically hit refresh in my browser and once XML was returned, switch to Eclipse -> SDK Manager. For whatever reason it appears my IP address block is being severely throttled by https://dl-ssl.google.com. Hopefully a Google engineer can check out this server's configuration (denyhosts settings??) as it seems to be an ongoing problem with a number of topics in Google groups