I\'m scratching my head on this one as I see a ton of helper websites showing how to create MySQL users and grant privileges but for some reason it just does not work for me
You need to look at mysql.db or mysql.tables_priv tables if you need to select the Y or N if you are trying to do some restrictions of from what page a user can edit or insert or delete... This tables are automatically updated with the Ys and Ns as they are solely designed to show what privileges a user has on tables or columns as opposed to mysql.user whose purpose is to show that there is a certain user who can login(create connection) to a database.