Distributed computing is usually complex and you are well advised to use existing libraries or frameworks instead of reinventing the wheel. Previous poster have already enumerated a couple of these libraries and frameworks. Depending on your needs you can pick either a very low level (like sockets) or high level framework (like CORBA). There can not be a generic "use this" answer. You need to educate yourself about distributed programming and then will find it much easier to pick the right library or framework for the job.
There exists a wildly used C++ framework for distributed computing called ACE and the CORBA ORB TAO (which is buildt upon ACE). There exist very good books about ACE http://www.cs.wustl.edu/~schmidt/ACE/ so you might take a look. Take care!
