I have a hard nut to crack with joing 3 tables. I have a newsletter_items, newsletter_fields and newsletter_mailgroups which I want to be joined to get a list of newsletters
I recommend that you make your joins explicit.
It makes it easier to debug your query and to change inner with left joins.
There is absolutely never a good reason to use SQL '89 implicit join syntax.
SELECT ni.*
, nf.*
, group_concat(nm.mailgroup_name) as mailgroups
FROM newsletter_items ni
INNER JOIN newsletter_fields nf
ON (nf.field_letter_uid = ni.letter_id)
INNER JOIN newsletter_mailgroups nm
ON (find_in_set(nm.mailgroup_id, ni.receivers))
WHERE
nf.field_name = 'letter_headline'
ni.template = '". $template ."'
GROUP BY ni.letter_id;
Regarding your database design.
I recommend you normalize your database, that means that you move the comma separated fields into a different table.
So you make a table receivers
Receivers
----------
id integer auto_increment primary key
letter_id integer not null foreign key references newsletter_items(letter_id)
value integer not null
You then remove the field receiver from the table newsletter_items
Your query then changes into:
SELECT ni.*
, group_concat(r.value) as receivers
, nf.*
, group_concat(nm.mailgroup_name) as mailgroups
FROM newsletter_items ni
INNER JOIN newsletter_fields nf
ON (nf.field_letter_uid = ni.letter_id)
INNER JOIN newsletter_mailgroups nm
ON (find_in_set(nm.mailgroup_id, ni.receivers))
LEFT JOIN receiver r ON (r.letter_id = ni.letter_id)
WHERE
nf.field_name = 'letter_headline'
ni.template = '". $template ."'
GROUP BY ni.letter_id;
This change should also speed up your query significantly.