I have 2 sites where mail is sent to two vanity gmail accounts. I\'m using PHP to handle the mail, but the mail is not showing up at gmail (not in spam/junk, it just doesn\
There is a possibility you did not set proper header data, and those emails are blocked even before reaching spam folder.
Try adding something like this:
$headers = 'From: your@email.com' . "\r\n" . 'Reply-To: some@email.com';
This is the fourth parameter of mail() function.