I have 3 Columns of ULs each a Dynamic UL container that can have anywhere from 0-9 LI containers (eventually more). All my LI elements have an attribute \"rel\" which I am
$('li[rel=7]').siblings().andSelf();
// or:
$('li[rel=7]').parent().children();
Now that you added that comment explaining that you want to "form an array of rels per column", you should do this:
var rels = [];
$('ul').each(function() {
var localRels = [];
$(this).find('li').each(function(){
localRels.push( $(this).attr('rel') );
});
rels.push(localRels);
});