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They all give the command that has to be executed, what I don\'t understand is where do I write this
For Windows Service, you need to run tomcat9w.exe (or 6w/7w/8w) depending on your version of tomcat. First, make sure tomcat is stopped. Then double click on tomcat9w.exe. Navigate to the Java tab. If you know you have 64 bit Windows with 64 bit Java and 64 bit Tomcat, then feel free to set the memory higher than 512. You'll need to do some task manager monitoring to determine how high to set it. For most apps developed in 2019... I'd recommend an initial memory pool of 1024, and the maximum memory pool of 2048. Of course if your computer has tons of RAM... feel free to go as high as you want. Also, see this answer: How to increase Maximum Memory Pool Size? Apache Tomcat 9