Apparently dependent => destroy is ignored when also using the :through option.
So I have this...
class Comment < ActiveRecord::Base
has_many :c
The original poster's solution is valid, however I wanted to point out that this only works if you have an id column for that table. I prefer my many-to-many tables to only be the two foreign keys, but I had to remove my "id: false" from the migration table definition for cascading delete to work. Having this functionality definitely outweighs not having an id column on the table.