Here's an attempt using make.unique
to account for duplicates:
dupdiff <- function(x,y) x[-match(
make.unique(as.character(y)),
make.unique(as.character(x)),
nomatch=0
)]
Testing:
dupdiff(x,y)
#[1] 1 3 8
dupdiff(x,z)
#[1] 1 5 7
dupdiff(x, c(5, 7))
#[1] 1 3 3 8
dupdiff(x, c(5, 7, 9))
#[1] 1 3 3 8