SQL Select only rows where exact multiple relationships exist

Question

This is closely related to this question, but adds another requirement.

Given a parent table \'parent\'

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║ PARENT_ID  ║ NAME           


        

Answer 1

SELECT PARENT_ID
FROM rel
GROUP BY PARENT_ID
HAVING
  COUNT(PROP_ID)=2 AND
  COUNT(DISTINCT case when PROP_ID IN ( 1, 5 ) then PROP_ID end)=2

This will select all PARENT_ID that have exactly two rows, with exactly two, non duplicated, PROP_ID that match.