How to detect “dangling pointers” if “Assigned()” can't do it?

Question

In another question, I found out that the Assigned() function is identical to Pointer <> nil. It has always been my understanding that

Answer 1

The core point is that the way how objects are implemented in Delphi has some built-in design drawbacks:

• there is no distinction between an object and a reference to an object. For "normal" variables, say a scalar (like int) or a record, these two use cases can be well told apart - there's either a type Integer or TSomeRec, or a type like PInteger = ^Integer or PSomeRec = ^TSomeRec, which are different types. This may sound like a neglectable technicality, but it isn't: a SomeRec: TSomeRec denotes "this scope is the original owner of that record and controls its lifecycle", while SomeRec: PSomeRec tells "this scope uses a transient reference to some data, but has no control over the record's lifecycle. So, as dumb it may sound, for objects there's virtually no one who has denotedly control over other objects' lifecycles. The result is - surprise - that the lifecycle state of objects may in certain situations be unclear.
• an object reference is just a simple pointer. Basically, that's ok, but the problem is that there's sure a lot of code out there which treats object references as if they were a 32bit or 64bit integer number. So if e.g. Embarcadero wanted to change the implementation of an object reference (and make it not a simple pointer any more), they would break a lot of code.

But if Embarcadero wanted to eliminate dangling object pointers, they would have to redesign Delphi object references:

• when an object is freed, all references to it must be freed, too. This is only possible by double-linking both, i.e. the object instance must carry a list with all of the references to it, that is, all memory addresses where such pointers are (on the lowest level). Upon destruction, that list is traversed, and all those pointers are set to nil
• a little more comfortable solution were that the "one" holding such a reference can register a callback to get informed when a referenced object is destroyed. In code: when I have a reference FSomeObject: TSomeObject I would want to be able to write in e.g. SetSomeObject: FSomeObject.OnDestruction := Self.HandleDestructionOfSomeObject. But then FSomeObject can't be a pointer; instead, it would have to be at least an (advanced) record type

Of course I can implement all that by myself, but that is tedious, and isn't it something that should be addressed by the language itself? They also managed to implement for x in ...