I seem to have the reverse problem to most people. I have the following pretty standard code to see if the user wants to do some saves before closing the window:
Not sure where your problem is, but this works for me!
frame.addWindowListener(new WindowAdapter() {
public void windowClosing(WindowEvent evt) {
int res=JOptionPane.showConfirmDialog(null,
"Do you want to exit.?");
if(res==JOptionPane.YES_OPTION){
Cal.this.dispose();
}
}
});