With very large amounts of ram these days I was wondering, it is possible to allocate a single chunk of memory that is larger than 4GB? Or would I need to allocate a bunch o
Like everyone else said, getting a 64bit machine is the way to go. But even on a 32bit machine intel machine, you can address bigger than 4gb areas of memory if your OS and your CPU support PAE. Unfortunately, 32bit WinXP does not do this (does 32bit Vista?). Linux lets you do this by default, but you will be limited to 4gb areas, even with mmap() since pointers are still 32bit.
What you should do though, is let the operating system take care of the memory management for you. Get in an environment that can handle that much RAM, then read the XML file(s) into (a) data structure(s), and let it allocate the space for you. Then operate on the data structure in memory, instead of operating on the XML file itself.
Even in 64bit systems though, you're not going to have a lot of control over what portions of your program actually sit in RAM, in Cache, or are paged to disk, at least in most instances, since the OS and the MMU handle this themselves.