I\'ve had a hard time trying to find good examples of how to manage database schemas and data between development, test, and production servers.
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I've written a tool which (by hooking into Open DBDiff) compares database schemas, and will suggest migration scripts to you. If you make a change that deletes or modifies data, it will throw an error, but provide a suggestion for the script (e.g. when a column in missing in the new schema, it will check if the column has been renamed and create xx - generated script.sql.suggestion containing a rename statement).
http://code.google.com/p/migrationscriptgenerator/ SQL Server only I'm afraid :( It's also pretty alpha, but it is VERY low friction (particularly if you combine it with Tarantino or http://code.google.com/p/simplescriptrunner/)
The way I use it is to have a SQL scripts project in your .sln. You also have a db_next database locally which you make your changes to (using Management Studio or NHibernate Schema Export or LinqToSql CreateDatabase or something). Then you execute migrationscriptgenerator with the _dev and _next DBs, which creates. the SQL update scripts for migrating across.