I want to be able to parse any url with ruby to get the main part of the domain without the www (just the XXXX.com)
Please note there is no algorithmic method of finding the highest level at which a domain may be registered for a particular top-level domain (the policies differ with each registry), the only method is to create a list of all top-level domains and the level at which domains can be registered.
This is the reason why the Public Suffix List exists.
I'm the author of PublicSuffix, a Ruby library that decomposes a domain into the different parts.
Here's an example
require 'uri/http'
uri = URI.parse("http://toolbar.google.com")
domain = PublicSuffix.parse(uri.host)
# => "toolbar.google.com"
domain.domain
# => "google.com"
uri = URI.parse("http://www.google.co.uk")
domain = PublicSuffix.parse(uri.host)
# => "www.google.co.uk"
domain.domain
# => "google.co.uk"