I think I found the answer to my question, I\'m just unsure of the syntax, I keep getting SQL errors.
Basically, I want to do the opposite of IN. Take this example:<
What about
SELECT * FROM users, tags WHERE tags.user_id = users.user_id AND tags.name = 'tag1' INTERSECT SELECT * FROM users, tags WHERE tags.user_id = users.user_id AND tags.name = 'tag2'