Using this within blur handler function will give you the blured element.
$(target).blur(function(e){
var bluredElement = this; // dom element
// To make a jQuery object
var bluredElement = $(this);
});
Within blur event you can't catch the clicked element. To get the clicked element you need click event. For example:
$(element).click(function() {
var clickedElement = this;
});
And to get the focused element you can use :focus selector like: $(':focus') will returns you focused element in document.