I have developed some custom DAO-like classes to meet some very specialized requirements for my project that is a server-side process that does not run inside any kind of fr
IMO, the "more obvious/more idiomatic/better solution" is to use an existing ORM rather than invent DAO-like classes.
It appears to me that ORM's are more popular than "raw" SQL connections. Why? Because Python is OO, and the mapping from a SQL row to an object is absolutely essential. There aren't many use cases where you deal with SQL rows that don't map to Python objects.
I think that SQLAlchemy or SQLObject (and the associated connection pooling) are the more idiomatic Pythonic solutions.
Pooling as a separate feature isn't very common because pure SQL (without object mapping) isn't very popular for the kind of complex, long-running processes that benefit from connection pooling. Yes, pure SQL is used, but it's always used in simpler or more controlled applications where pooling isn't helpful.
I think you might have two alternatives: