After reading and try\'n\'error for days, I´m giving up and ask for help.
< edit > I am using ActionBarSherlock. < /edit >
What I want to achie
I think the easiest way is to apply
android:background="android:attr/activatedBackgroundIndicator"
To which ever layout is the one you will be clicking.
This highlights the layout when selected using
listView.setChoiceMode(ListView.CHOICE_MODE_MULTIPLE_MODAL);
worked for me anyway