MySqlCommand cmd = new MySqlCommand("select * from table where user = '" + user.Text + "'", con);
MySqlDataAdapter da = new MySqlDataAdapter(cmd);
DataSet ds1 = new DataSet();
da.Fill(ds1);
int i = ds1.Tables[0].Rows.Count;
if (i > 0) {
// Exist
}
else {
// Add
}