First select the number of friends that the user has:
"SELECT COUNT(*) as numFriends FROM friends WHERE member_id='".$_SESSION['userid']."'
...put that into a variable, let's call it "$numFriends"
Then:
for($z=0;$z<6;$z++)
{
$randomFriendIndex = rand(1,$numFriends);
//Get the friend at that index
}