I have already seen http://dev.mysql.com/doc/refman/4.1/en/mysql-config-wizard-file-location.html
how to know mysql my.cnf location
and
http://dev.
Open your run console type: services.msc look for: mysql right click properties where is written "path to executable", click and move the cursor to the right until you see the directory of my.ini, it's written "defaults-file-". to reach it manually on your explore folders you have to enable the visualization of hidden elements (explore folder>top menu>visualize>visualize hidden elements)
as explained by this video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SvCAa2XuQhg