I am not a Delphi programmer, but I I got an old Delphi 7 application that I need to fix and it is using ADO.
The database table (MS Accesss) contains +100,000 rows and
This article is BDE specific, but applies to ADO or most client data access libraries.
http://dn.codegear.com/article/28160
I would recommend using TADODataSet (it's "closer" to the ADO layer than TADOQuery) and selecting only the data the client needs by providing a custom search form (date range, list of specific items, etc)
Good luck