1 S postgres 5038 876 0 80 0 - 11962 sk_wai 09:57 ? 00:00:00 postgres: postgres my_app ::1(45035) idle
It sounds like you have a connection leak in your application because it fails to close pooled connections. You aren't having issues just with sessions, but with too many connections overall.
Killing connections is not the right answer for that, but it's an OK-ish temporary workaround.
Rather than re-starting PostgreSQL to boot all other connections off a PostgreSQL database, see: How do I detach all other users from a postgres database? and How to drop a PostgreSQL database if there are active connections to it? . The latter shows a better query.
For setting timeouts, as @Doon suggested see How to close idle connections in PostgreSQL automatically?, which advises you to use PgBouncer to proxy for PostgreSQL and manage idle connections. This is a very good idea if you have a buggy application that leaks connections anyway; I very strongly recommend configuring PgBouncer.
A TCP keepalive won't do the job here, because the app is still connected and alive, it just shouldn't be.
In PostgreSQL 9.2 and above, you can use the new state_change timestamp column and the state field of pg_stat_activity to implement an idle connection reaper. Have a cron job run something like this:
SELECT pg_terminate_backend(pid)
FROM pg_stat_activity
WHERE datname = 'regress'
AND pid <> pg_backend_pid()
AND state = 'idle'
AND state_change < current_timestamp - INTERVAL '5' MINUTE;
In older versions you need to implement complicated schemes that keep track of when the connection went idle. Do not bother; just use pgbouncer.