I develop on my tablet using android studio.
The tablet is connected to the computer by wifi using
adb connect
It is not a adb-connection-by-wifi what gets killed. It is just that USB enumerations affect the sys.usb.* system properties which on many devices is causing restart of adbd regardless whether it's being used over USB or tcpip.
Do grep "stop adbd" /init*rc to see what I mean.
You could either comment out those stop adbd lines or just disconnect the USB cable before running your adb connect command.